mental indigestion

Emma at Age 5 December 29, 2009

Filed under: Life in general — mel @ 11:48 pm

"And then ah...."

1. She likes grown-up notebooks and sparkly pens.
2. She managed to figure out watching Sesame Street clips on youtube all by herself.
3. She likes to win in games.
4. She gets constipation when she eats chocolate.
5. She prefers Hong Kong to Singapore because it’s “not too hot and not too cold and there are no ants”.

Emma's notes


We are the “Hua”

Filed under: Whee! — mel @ 10:00 am

The bout of festive blues was soothingly countered by the flurry of hitching friends over the weekend. The packed matrimonial schedule was something I had not exactly been looking forward to – after all, December is really a wedding-fatigued month – but in the end, nothing beats the genuine joy of seeing friends basking in the love surrounding them.

It’s good to end the year with renewed hope, new beginnings and memories of milestones.


Amen to that December 25, 2009

Filed under: Inspiration — mel @ 2:57 pm

“God came to us because he wanted to join us on the road, to listen to our story, and to help us realize that we are not walking in circles but moving towards the house of peace and joy. This is the great mystery of Christmas that continues to give us comfort and consolation: we are not alone on our journey. The God of love who gave us life sent his only Son to be with us at all times and in all places, so that we never have to feel lost in our struggles but always can trust that he walks with us.

The challenge is to let God be who he wants to be. A part of us clings to our aloneness and does not allow God to touch us where we are most in pain. Often we hide from him precisely those places in ourselves where we feel guilty, ashamed, confused, and lost. Thus we do not give him a chance to be with us where we feel most alone.

Christmas is the renewed invitation not to be afraid and to let him-whose love is greater than our own hearts and minds can comprehend-be our companion”

– Henri Nouwen


New Soul

Filed under: Life in general — mel @ 7:34 am

Five days left till the year ends…the idea of starting on a new slate is always nice. This song has become an internal soundtrack ever since hearing it on Dash’s blog.

“I’m a new soul. I came to this strange world, hoping I could learn a bit about how to give and take. But since I came here, felt the joy and the fear, finding myself making every possible mistake.”

I also realise that this is the soundtrack of the first Macbook Air ad last year – personally selected by Steve Jobs no less. Quite fitting since “Sweetie” has become an indispensable companion (note to self: due for digital cleansing soon).


The Way of Tea (3) December 21, 2009

Filed under: Tea for Thoughts — mel @ 5:37 pm
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Hidden austerity

Learning points:
– The complexity of this ritual creates systems which actually makes life simpler. E.g. Don’t like tea = no slurp instead of being diplomatic in a roundabout way.
– I love their beautiful round, cast iron kettles. They feel so reassuring.
– Don’t memorize, it will come naturally.
– My knees are creaky.
– Simplicity is beauty.


29 things learned from 2009 December 20, 2009

Filed under: Life in general — mel @ 6:39 pm
  1. Turning 30 ain’t that bad.
  2. I am crap in playing politics so the most politically-correct thing to do is just be honest.
  3. Trust and act on that niggling feeling.
  4. I can only organise via paper….virtual sticky notes and online calendars and syncing and what-nots: forget it.
  5. When people annoy you, look at their good points.
  6. Driving in jams brings out the worst in people.
  7. I like freedom, but I also like stability and the twain seldom meet.
  8. Helping others is just as important as getting help from others.
  9. Depression makes me fat.
  10. Pretty things that aren’t too expensive make me happy.
  11. Light blue is my favourite colour – but yellow and red make things lively.
  12. Don’t apologize for being old-fashioned.
  13. There are some people just not worth listening to.
  14. There are plenty of interesting people worth listening to.
  15. Instant comforts: Hot soya bean milk, homemade lotus root soup and the addictive Sembawang bee hoon.
  16. Don’t prolong unhappiness, find ways to get out of it.
  17. Uncertainty is certain.
  18. I have too many notebooks.
  19. I love being far away from the cloned shopping malls and crowds.
  20. Never trust the papers.
  21. Tea calms me down.
  22. Too many people are not saying enough about how they really feel about life.
  23. Part-time cleaning: lifesaver.
  24. There is such a thing as too much Lego.
  25. It’s hard to have just the right amount of ego – too little and you’re a mess, too much and you’re annoying.
  26. Be grateful for the blessings.
  27. Read the Bible more – it puts this crazy, screwed-up world into perspective.
  28. My husband is a gem.
  29. Getting 8 hours of sleep every night is beneficial.

The Anomalies December 19, 2009

Filed under: Life in general — mel @ 9:10 pm

While surrounded by black-tubed-dressed-girls-with-Korean-ceramic-curls-and-fake-eyelashes-perched-on-impossible-heels earlier this week at a “sociological study of the local beauty industry”, E. made the comment we definitely were the unusual ones (even after getting doused by glitter from make-up artists). And to think I had met these two lovely friends of deviation in a shuttle bus four years ago – and by “met” I mean that we were on the same bus, but were usually asleep most of the time. Later we progressed to cab comrades after the shuttle bus service ceased and would talk about art, retreats and the joys of staying at home on weekends.